D9 – Time for Something RADICAL?

We’ve all heard the saying:

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result.

But how often do we actually HEED this warning?  Nine times out of ten, my coaching conversations revert back to the question “Where else are you doing X?” or “Where else do experience Y in your life?”  We usually discover that X and Y are things that have plagued a client for years. I love saying “how you do ANYTHING is how you do EVERYTHING!”

Well, just because I’m a life coach doesn’t mean I’m immune to this human design flaw. This 100 Days of Fighting Back is shining a VERY BRIGHT LIGHT on how many unconscious habits I’ve developed around my eating and pretty much every aspect of my life. Let me tell you from experience, if you are telling yourself you have got everything handled, don’t trust it. It would really benefit you to take another deep hard look at your life and figure out if you might be lying to yourself. Human beings are so much like onions, we have layers and layers and it takes effort to discover them all. Our trauma has layers too, and it’s the digging deep that frees you from their choke hold.

To peel away the layers we have to take RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY for our lives. This means setting up our environment to support us in achieving our dreams. Not only do we need to goal plan, eliminate distractions and BE AWAKE, but we also have to protect ourselves for people and situations that steal our energy and undermine our future selves. I call this setting up guardrails.

I know that I have a compulsive auto pilot when it comes to food. If I treat it like an addiction, from which I need to protect myself, this is an example of being radically responsible. I’m taking charge of keeping myself out of situations where, when I’m weak, I might betray my commitments. And, going back to that acronym HALTO (hungry, angry, lonely, tired, overwhelmed)… I need to be sure if I am feeling any of those things, I lean into self care and stay away from temptations.

Setting yourself up for success requires intentionality and radical responsibility… and, to be honest, in the beginning, it can be exhausting. But just like ANY habit that gets you the results you want–the more you do it, the easier it becomes.

Lean into the hard.