50 Questions to Discover Yourself

First week of the New Year and I am all about evaluation.  This time of year, I recommend looking at your life and figuring out who you are and what you want.  I am not talking about the PollyAnna new year’s resolutions most people create.  I am talking about soul-searching with a plan!

Some people think that there is just an inherent “you” inside; that you are a fixed possibility that changes and grows only moderately each year.  I believe you’ve got much more of a choice.  I believe in transformation.

When you are committed to living a life on the edge of productivity and awareness, you design your “why” and create who you are every single year.  Transformation requires us to be awake in our lives.  We must know who we are and be aware of changes as our lives and priorities shift.  We must cause a shift in who we are by better understanding ourselves and taking on challenging areas of growth.

Here are some questions to start your inquiry.  Here are the ground rules for doing the exercise:  Write every answer down.  Don’t skip any.  If there are questions you’ve never thought of, or you don’t know how to answer, make something up.  Don’t leave any question unanswered and be sure to answer them in the order they are asked.

1. What are the top 3 most important things in your life?
2. What 5 words best describe you?
3. What are 5 of your biggest personality weaknesses?
4. What are 5 of your biggest personality strengths?
5. What are 3 things that are missing in your life?
6. If you wrote a mission statement for you life, what would it be?
7. Name 3 things that stand between you and being happy?
8. Why does your life matter?
9. What are your 3 biggest fears?
10. How do they manifest themselves in your life?
11. What is one thing you know for sure?
12. What is the one thing you hate most?
13. What are the 5 biggest issues you struggle with?
14. Name 10 things you should have done.
15. What is more important to you: security or excitement?
16. What are 3 activities that you get lost in?
17. What’s the most difficult decision you’ve ever made?
18. What’s the best decision you’ve ever made?
19. What are you most grateful for?
20. Name 5 things you have always wanted, but don’t have yet.
21. Name 5 things you have always wanted TO DO, but haven’t yet.
22. In a perfect world, I would _____________________.
23. What three words describe your life during this past year?
24. What’s the number one change you need to make in your life in the next twelve months?
25. What’s the number one thing you want to achieve in the next five years?
26. In order of importance, how would you rank: happiness, money, love, health, fame?
27. What is the one thing missing from your life?
28. Name 5 things you want to do right now, but feel you cannot.
29. What 1 thing do most people think is important, that you do not?
30. What is 1 thing that most people think is UNimportant, that you think is?
31. What has been your most unattainable goal in life so far?
32. What makes you most proud about yourself?
33. What embarrasses you most about yourself?
34. Name 3 books you would like to read.
35. What is your favorite movie?
36. Why does that movie appeal to you?
37. I wish I made $_____________________ a year.
38. If you could change lives with any one person, who would it be?
39. Why?
40. What 1 habit could you give up that would significantly improve your life?
41. What 1 habit could you begin that would significantly improve your life?
42. What is a career/job you always wished you had?
43. What is one career/job you would never do?
44. I wish I would have ___________________.
45. What is your favorite quote?
46. If you could meet any 3 people, who would you meet?
47. If you won a $10M lottery right now, what would be the first thing you’d buy?
48. If you could change one thing about yourself overnight, what would it be?
49. If you could improve one relationship in your life, which one would it be?
50. What did you discover from doing this exercise?